Obituary of May Torry Passinger

May Torrey-Passinger, 78 of Falconer, formerly of Sinclairville, passed away Sunday June 16, 2024. Born Sept. 6, 1945 in Jamestown the daughter of the late Andrew S., II and Elaine Diers Passinger. She was a 1963 graduate of Cassadaga Valley Central School. May was employed as an Inventory Manager and Inspector for MRC/SKF for 28 years and then owned and operated the Witch Kitch Bar in Sinclairville for over 10 years. She was an associate member of the Herman Kent American Legion #777 , a D.A.R., and with the N.R.A. May enjoyed crafts, painting, sponsoring dirt track racing and helping out at the Chautauqua Children's Safety Education Village. In her younger, years she enjoyed bowling and softball. Wife of the late Burt Torrey; mother of Darren Burnside of Falconer and Elaine (Gary) Hrivnak of Cranberry Township, PA; grandmother of Bryce, Meagan and Emily Hrivnak and Samantha Cote; twin sister of Catherine (late Francis) LeBarron of Jamestown and the late Andrew Passinger, III. Also survived by her adopted son Kevin (Kathy) Weise of Stockton and nieces. Visitation 11 A.M.- 1 P.M. Saturday in Jordan Funeral Home, Sinclairville, with funeral services commencing at 1 P.M. in the funeral home. Burial in Gerry Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, memorials to Chautauqua County Humane Society or CASA of Chautauqua county. Condolences to jordansinclairville.com And finally, let it be known that so-called family secrets are far more harmful than helpful. It’s not a family obligation or duty to keep quiet, but just the opposite—abuse forever alters a child’s soul—incessantly pervading generations to come. Folks reminisce about “the good ole days;” longing to return to a more simple time. Bear in mind that for many, “simple” meant nowhere to turn for help. No teachers trained to watch for behavioral changes. Disdainful rather than helpful principals and school officials. Worst of all, the scornful classmates and gossip-mongering peers who make every day horrible, never considering offering some kindness to a vulnerable, motherless girl. There’s a special place in hell for child abusers, rapists, and incestuous pedophiles. And, because he died on Halloween of rectal cancer, I’m confident Andrew Passinger Jr. is roasting in Hell. Speak your family secrets loud and proud; you might be the only protection a child has. And remember, there’s always an another victim.